Ø WHAT WE ARE?
Ø HOW WE DESCRIBE OURSELVES?
In order to answer these two important questions, you need to evaluate your own history/past as you cannot escape from your past. What are your self descriptors? Are they your precise & clean labels/Tags that you gather over a period of time? Self labels may include like: I am confused, I am not introvert, I am studious, I am forgetful & a complete brochure of additional I’ms that you use……
These all self tags are not complete in their selves but definitely they harm the growth of an individual in several ways. They are deterrent to growth as it is very easy to use/put the label as a clarification for remaining the same.
The purpose of writing this book is to bring into notice what all error zones of one’s life. This book shall enlighten all the important areas/ aspects where one goes influenced in life &loose ones self image/ entity.
“INFLUENCE OF
YOUR
ERROR ZONES IN
LIFE“
Lalit Mahendru
Dedicated To
(......................................)
“I Love You
Through this
know about life & importance of True Love”.
CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION –A PERSONAL STATEMENT
v CHAPTER 1 - SELF EVALUATION IS FIRST LOVE – SPRITUAL
LOVE
v CHAPTER 2 - TAKE CONTROL OF YOURSELF
v CHAPTER 3 - ELIMINATE APPROVAL SEEKING BEHAVIOUR
v CHAPTER 4 - BREAKING THE CONVENTIONAL THINKING
v CHAPTER 5 - BREAK FREE FROM PAST
v CHAPTER 6 - AVOID THE INFLUENCE OF USELESS EMOTIONS
v CHAPTER 7 - EXPLORE YOURSELF AS AN INDIVIDUAL
v CHAPTER 8 - NOTHING IS ORGANISED – REACH NEAR TO PERFECTION ONLY
v CHAPTER 9- DECLARE YOUR FREEDOM
v CHAPTER 10- BREAK FREE FROM ANGER & OTHER HARMFUL EMOTIONS
v CHAPTER 11- DO TODAY – THERE IS NO TOMORROW
v CHAPTER 12- IMPACT OF WRECKING RELATONS
v CHAPTER 13- AN EXPLORED PERSON WHO HAS ELIMINATED ALL BLUNDER ZONES
§ INTRODUCTION – A PERSONAL STATEMENT
The purpose of writing this book is to bring into notice all those self-defeating behaviors which are big obstacles in a way of happiness. It’s like a worm that simply crawls to the top if put into a container of water and if the same worm will be put into undiluted alcohol, it will disintegrate in that fluid. The moral of this is, people are not ready to leave their prejudices, personal history and self-defeating zones. They are sticked to those worms till date.
This book details about those worms and all rectifying measures also to keep them at bay. Each chapter of this book is written like a counseling session and provides various opportunities for self-help as much possible. Essence of this book is to explore self-defeating zones, evaluating their histories of past and then helping you to understand why you are trapped in those zones and ways to come out. This book will detail about the types of behaviors that seem normal or good but fall under the erroneous zones and in reality, harmful to your happiness. This entails a hard look at all the psychological systems that you have build around you to keep that self- defeating behavior, rather than giving that up.
This book is an attempt to answer few questions like: “What would I get out of my this behaviour?, “Why do I keep this kind of behaviour when it is bad for me?” etc. The complete book shall go around on similar messages across all the chapters & at the end of each chapter; you would find some useful exercises to eradicate all those error zones. Each chapter concludes with some realities & strategies to eliminate these self-nullifying behaviors. It is very easy to stick on to learnt answers, rather than trying to seek out your own responses. This book is an effort or a kind of counseling session in which exploration of possible blunder zones in one’s life, where they surface & also looking into details of “WHY” these behaviours prevail are done. It also includes concrete plans or strategies to eradicate these troublesome areas. This attempt may strike you as repetitious but a thought should be repeated again & again until & unless, it is fully understood & accepted. This process is a kind of “Practice makes a man perfect”, same way, repetition of good things or thoughts in mind, would open it up for improvement on all problematic zones.
The main theme of this book roams around on three important aspects: First, our life becomes what choices we make. Our choices can be good or bad & accordingly, the life brings happiness or sadness. Based on the choice of emotion, you make, the result would be in commensurate to that. This book will examine all those choices & rectify wherever it will be wrong. Secondly, it will advise you to take charge of your life because depending on others for your decisions will not grow you in any way, rather, you should learn to take your own decisions in life, irrespect of the result can be good or bad but should not be repetitive mistakes. At the end of the day, you would be able to justify yourself on those decisions taken by you & accordingly can plan to work on weak areas. Thirdly, this book enlights a very important point, living in the present as there is no past & there shall be no tomorrow, so always live in today.
v “Study as if you were to live forever, Live as if you were to die tomorrow"
There is only one moment in which you can experience the life and that is “TODAY”, now the question is, then why so much of time gets wasted in evaluating the past & thinking about the future when you know very clearly that tomorrow can bring only hopes & past can make you feel repented but living in the present, can give you the complete life with full of happiness in every moment, so, life for today but of course save for rainy days of tomorrow. This book shall help you to turn you into fulfillment & eliminate all the self-defeating attitudes & give you an experiences & effective life. Through this, you may start asking various questions from yourself such as: “Why am I upset now”? “How can I bring more happiness & passion in my life”? & “How can I evaluate my choices so as to make them more effective & meaningful for myself”?. All these, and many more queries, shall start raising in your mind after reading this book & your mind will then evaluate your thinking, actions & choice that you make. It will definitely come handy to improve all blunder zones that have been nagging in you since long & were not allowing you to develop & also not allowing you to live in the present. Living in present is the touchstone of every page of this book.
At the end of all the chapters, there is a brief portrait of a person who has successfully eradicated all the error zones now from the life and living in an internally emotionally controlled life. The real choice is yours whether you want to beak free from all those neurotics & give yourself a liberal life so as to make your own decisions with confidence & determination. Some wisdom words:
v “Excellence is not singular act, but a habit, you are what you repeatedly do”
v “If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you want truly, & what is left is compromise”
v “LIFE IS A SUM OF ALL YOUR CHOICES”
v “Adversity is a fact of life, it cannot be controlled. What we can control is how we react to it”
v “No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change”
v “Life is divided into three terms- that which was, which is, and which will be. Le us learn from the past to profit by present, & from present to live better in future”
This book shall definitely help you to remove all the worms that may be keeping you far from a beautiful world of happiness by giving you enlighted way to grow in life.
